Conversations we don’t usually get into.
Six to eight men. Six evenings on video. One topic a night.
Dates to come
When someone asks how you’re doing
You say “good, busy.”
It’s probably true.
Also true, and rarely part of the answer:
Not sure if the career you’re in is the one you want.
You had dinner at your buddy’s condo, then went home to your rented studio.
You ask about other people’s plans more than anyone asks about yours.
You’re not sure who you’d talk to about any of this.
How are you 32 already?
Most of us decide to keep these thoughts to ourselves.
Good, Busy is six evenings with a handful of other men, saying them out loud.
What it is
Six to eight men who mostly don’t know each other. Six evenings on video, 75 minutes each, one topic a night.
Beforehand I send something short to read or watch, fifteen or twenty minutes, with a few questions to think about. Then we talk, less about the piece than about what it brought up.
The six nights
Six conversations about the things that tend to take up more mental real estate than we let on.
Origins
What you were told, and where it still runs you.
What you’re chasing
Whether you picked your ambition or inherited it, and what happens if you get it.
Friendships
Who’s there.
Money
What you have versus what you thought you’d have by now, and what it says about you.
The role
What the people closest to you count on you to be.
The scoreboard
Who you measure yourself against, and what the measuring costs.
What it isn’t
Therapy.
Nobody’s here because something’s wrong with them.
A retreat.
We’re not getting naked or having a drum circle.
A debate club.
You aren’t here to be right.
Who it’s for
Men who say they’re fine.
And mean it.
Decent job, maybe a partner, a life that looks put together and mostly is.
I do ask three things:
Come to all six.
Never say who said what.
Be honest.
If you’re going through something acute right now, this isn’t built for that, and I’m happy to point you toward something that is.
The details
Six Tuesday evenings over about eight weeks. Dates to come.
What it costs
Nothing to join.
At the end, I’ll ask you to pay what you think it was worth, if anything. That’s it.
Who runs it
Jake Langer
I’m a coach, and I’ve spent a lot of time in conversations like these. But Good, Busy isn’t group coaching, and you’re not my client.
My job is to bring the topics, hold the ground rules, and push us to be honest, even a little uncomfortable. Beyond that, I’m part of the group. I answer the same questions as everyone else.
The first group
Interested?
This is the first time I’m running this, so I will ask for honest feedback at the end.
Groups are capped at eight. Leave your name with a short form, and I’ll reach out personally when the next one is set.